Elders Meditation- Mothers Protection

Elder's Meditation of the Day - October 29
"Mothers must protect the
lives they have helped to bring into the world."
--Haida Gwaii, Traditional
Circle of Elders
Every child is subject to the seeds each adult plants in
his/her mind. If we plant praise and "you can do it", the child will grow up
with certain predictable behavior patterns. If we plant ideas that there's
something wrong with you or you're good for nothing, the child will grow up with
predictable behavior patterns. We need to honor and respect the mothers who
protect the children and plant positive seeds for their growth.

Great
Spirit, bless each mother and give her courage and faith.

I talked with a friend of mine about this exact thing a few days ago. Its as true for children as it is for adults. If we learn when we are young to believe we are good for nothing we will start to believe it. If we grow up believing we are worthwhile we will believe it.

Children rely on us to teach them about life, and to protect them from the bad of the world. We are given this grave responsibility, and sometimes we fail. I remember one time with my oldest son. We were out, and he wasn't listening to me, and I said without thinking "You're a bad boy!" he began to cry and said it over and over again. While I don't believe that he is essentially bad all the time, he believed that to be true, since I (who as a parent shape his self worth) said so. So monitor well what you say to your children, for they look upon you to show them the "truth"

Even as adults what people say to us consistantly is what shapes our self image. So if we surround ourselves with people who think less of us then we are worthy of, we believe we are less then we are.

I took a course recently that focusing on retraining myself and minding my self talk. It helped immensely since when I was younger, my good was never good enough. I've now begun to monitor how I talk to myself and have tried to banish most bad/unmotivating self talk from my day to day life.

Have you ever wondered why when you think "what next" and only expect the worst, something worse does happen? Its because your self talk is being made a reality by your subconcious. So if you tell yourself, "Your a loser, you never get anything right" then eventually it will become true...So instead why not train yourself to believe you are worthwhile, you are a great person.

And monitor well what and how you say things to your children. For they are relying on you to show them what is true and right in their worlds.